Adulthood Club!

Flowers need time to bloom. 

So do you.

Again!!! Here we go again..

1-05-2024

Turning 24...doesn't it feel exciting or responsible? With each passing year we only realize on our birthday, Damn! Another year has passed. And from being excited about every birthday to feeling nothing at all we all become adults.

 Welcome to the club!

When a child is excited for his/her birthday basically that child is expecting a birthday party, presents, a big Barbie or superhero cake, celebrating with all the friends and in the end it just like yeah, I got this, I got that. 

It's so nostalgic like your parents used to ask you what you want for your birthday and you had a long list of things in your mind but you choose the expensive one because you know it’s your birthday and your parents will never denied for that. But gradually with time you become a bit mature so you don’t celebrate your birthday at home with bunch of neighbour’s kids, relatives and family. You just go out with your friends and throw a party. And when you return home you have a small celebration with your family. And when your parents ask you what you want, so you choose the stuff that you actually need and a cheaper one because now you can understand the value of money. You can see the change in yourself every year, how you are becoming mature and calm.

And mostly when you are in college you have the authority to celebrate your birthday the way you want, you can go wherever you want because till that time no one interrupts you. But as soon as you complete that phase and enter in adulthood, life automatically changes the phase or chapter of your life. Now you can do whatever you want, if you want to buy some expensive things, you can buy it because no one will say anything. You can complete all your bucket lists.

But despite all this, have you ever had a phase when you are calm, just calm. And on this birthday, you really don't want anything. You realize that today is your birthday, and you have nothing to feel, neither the shouting, nor the celebration like before, nor any plans with friends, nothing at all. You think you are becoming an adult now. And thinking like that means more responsibilities are coming upon you, you have already wasted a lot of your time but what do you really want now? Maybe five years ago, you thought so much about the future that you will do this and that, you just made your list of what you actually want from the next five years, like well-established career, proud moment for parents, good reputation in front of family and many more things.

But what do you want now? Peace? A healthy life? Good mental health? Stable family? True friends? Supportive partner? A good job? Or even none at all?

It's crazy that society and some of your own people don't feel the pressure within you. You think that maybe one day you will achieve everything but ultimately not everything goes according to your wish. It feels like everything is falling apart while nothing seems like genuine. And now you know that with each passing day sometimes every question drives you crazy, like, "What's wrong with me?"

So, I just want to make you feel comfortable to all the people out there who is turning into 24 or 25. Just relax and calm down. Life won't end if you are still struggling or trying to be better out there. It doesn’t matter if your predication didn’t go well. But make sure you are felling okay, supportive or optimistic. It doesn't matter if other people are more successful or peaceful, everyone has their own time. And maybe it's not your time yet. Because every flower blooms at its own time. So, when your time comes you will blossom like beautiful flower petals. Never take the burden of someone's happiness or joy upon yourself as to why others are happier than you. It may be that the environment around you is pushing you under the pressure of expectations, but do not forget that you have the right to choose your environment. So, choose people who will support you in your struggle and be there for you in hard times, people who will never make you feel worthless.

 I have seen many people getting success by the age of 25, some even get the right partner and get married, some start their new family, some are just enjoying life beautifully and some are still struggling. Some are living and some are trying to live. And it's the combination of everything that makes us different from each other. It's not that you're behind. Maybe you have to let go of all the things in your life that you don't need in order to get what you really want. I know most of you have already gone through that phase when you used to laugh, talk and hang out with all those people who are not in touch with you today. The person who once told you that he/she would spend the rest of his life with you might be the person is on your block list right now. May be before you have been surrounded by some manipulative people but then you cut them out of your life.

So, that's life. You have to give up everything that once seemed true. Sometimes you have to choose yourself and your peace over people. And you know what the most beautiful thing about adulthood is that you can clearly see what real happiness is. If someone is not with you today you already know the reason and you don't even try to fix it. You just okay with it. Don't carry the baggage of emotions with you all the time because they only cause pain. Instead remember the good moments and let go of the rest.

Just don’t waste your beautiful journey always trying to fix someone else shit like you used to do. You have your own life too. Because at the end of the day, the people who are still with you are your real people.

So, you are worthy and not behind. You are just on your time. So, live gracefully and hopefully. Good things take time and the flower always blooms.

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